Selena Gomez, Benny Blanco On Who Said ‘I Love You’ First | The Social
well listen up next uh in a recent who’s most likely to challenge on Tik Tok Selena Gomez revealed that she was actually the one who said she said I love you first to her boyfriend Benny Blanco and then it got us thinking does it matter who says I love you [Music] first does matter I’ve said I love you first it was accidental but I I said it first why was it accidental because I was falling asleep no all cozy I was like oh I love you and I was like oh my gosh yeah I had a a boyfriend sleepover sorry Mom Dad and anyways then he said I love you and I thought oh thank you okay we’re on the same page but I want him to say I love you first I want to know where we stand you know what I mean I want to know that I’m wanted and then even if I don’t love them I just want to be loved you usually wait for the guy you know research shows apparently I think most people think that women say it first but research shows that men actually are the ones who often say it first and they feel it more quickly the from evolutionary biology sitation when are they saying it are they are they horizontal not a not a bad point or is it a difference between I love you and I love that but anyway they say I love you I’m like that doesn’t count it’s funny that it’s a it’s a great Point um I thought for sure that Ryan said it first but I called him I was like oh my gosh babe can you just confirm that you said I love you first and he goes uh no you said it first and I totally misremembered the situation but I get what you’re saying I think a lot of women in a heterosexual context we want the affirmation first we don’t want to put our neck out and look like a fool and not get it reciprocated cuz it’s a slippery slope down after that conversation but the way that I did it with Ryan was we started to say I like you a lot and then we would start to say I really like you a lot and we kept saying that and I know I was testing the waters and he’s like I love you I love you no I like you a lot too and then one day two weeks into dating he said two weeks two weeks into dating he said he looked at me in the eye and he goes I’m going to make you fall in love with me so fast and I was like you know listen I liked it a lot and then he says not shortly after I said I love you first but in that case he already was telling me he loved me does he have a brother yes well I’m married both married I’m very sorry too late honey it came in too late uh you know what’s so weird in the dating real they always I’ve always been told never say it first you never say it first whoever says it first you always want that and then there’s the old wives tale of like you want the guy to love you a little bit more than you love him you know now that I have a little bit of age and I’ve said it and I’ve had people say it to me and I’ve had relationships come and go I I really wish that I’d followed it up with oh why and not like an insecure way but you know I feel like sometimes people just say it because it’s the moment or they think it’s a nice thing to say and I want to be like is it the idea of me or the real me because if we’re early stages I know you don’t know the real me the wig hasn’t come off yet darling so I’m wondering because there’s two of us and you’ve only seen one the best forward wish we had more of a conversation you like this girl and you like this hey if you love me at my best you’ll love me without my way it that wig comes off honey for that oh God I love this show so much hey there what did you think drop your comments below and join the conversation and don’t forget to like And subscribe so you can find more on everything from food and fashion to pop culture and current events see you soon
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It should be a natural thing to say , you just need to be mentally ready to not be reciprocated back.
I don’t think it should be the man first to say it. I think whoever feels at first should be able to let it be known.
FYI ….People who don't love themselves, are unable to say it easily and if they do, it will make them uncomfortable and they may subconsciously self sabotage the relationship. They love how you make them feel not necessarily for who you are as a human. I say I love you to most people, nick name is Lovey for my future grand kids 🙂 I start the day with an Oh How I love ya'! Oh How I love ya'! Oh how I love you today! Singing it to myself and sending that love out to the Universe 🥰
The "love" you might feel in the early days of dating is just infatuation. Real love is when you've been together for a long time and go through things that are hard and you look over at your partner and are very grateful for their love and support. Love takes time to grow.